This is a phrase that I heard often throughout the pregnancy. I don’t consider myself a worrier. I’ve always been a kind of a go-with-the-flow type of guy. However it becomes a little different when it comes to your child. With anything as complex as growing a baby there are going to be issues. Ours started right in the beginning. Whether it’s bleeding, cramping, nausea, or just plain old pain your wife is going to get worried. In turn you are going to get worried. One thing you can count on is that, if your wife is like mine, she will be Google’ing every little symptom. Guys, Google is your worst enemy. For example, try typing in “week 10 bleeding”. You won’t even get the “b” in before Google finishes the search query and there are thousands of discussion threads about what this means. Everything from “don’t worry about it” from supermom26 to “I had the same thing and had a miscarriage the next day” from annie2m. So who do you believe? Supermom26 or annie2m? My answer is neither. I mean really, who are these people? Annie2m could be a crazy alcoholic meth-head with serious medical conditions and Supermom26 could be just some whack job who doesn’t even have kids but loves attention. See what I mean, you just never know. These stories are all out there and to someone who is starving for answers they are awfully appealing. Your wife will eat them up and next thing you know you’re caught up in it. All you want is some peace and quiet and the “what ifs” don’t stop.
About 3 months in I had a revelation: Everything will be fine, until it isn’t. I came to the realization that this whole thing is completely out of my hands. If it’s meant to be it will be. Sounds cheesy but you have to surrender to that mentality. Because even if something is wrong there is little or nothing you can do about it.
One suggestion: For your sanity’s sake just go to the doctors anytime something doesn’t feel right to your wife. 10 times out of 10 it will be nothing but you will not stop hearing about it until a doctor tells her it is ok. Trust me on this and save yourself the agony of the never-ending guessing game.
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